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When is it okay???????

Post by BlackBeauty on Thu May 28, 2009 6:56 pm

How soon is it okay to discuss past relationships, sexual experiences or encounters, credit scores, and other personal records with a new mate?

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Re: When is it okay???????

Post by Kamariasmommy09 on Thu May 28, 2009 7:23 pm

I think it is ok to discuss past relationships like the first few weeks. Sexual experience should be discussed around the time you get ready to "bump uglys" and credit score and things like that should be discussed like some years after y'all meet.

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Re: When is it okay???????

Post by Missarcasm on Thu May 28, 2009 10:06 pm

I think it just depends on the relationship...comfort level, sense of trust, blah blah blah.

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Post by Bonnie9606 on Fri May 29, 2009 11:49 am

^^I concur Miss Sarcasm. It is dependent upon the progression of the relationship and the comfort level amongst the two people involved.

I do not discuss finances and credit until the relationship is monogamous and marriage is considered.

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Post by steshasweetie on Fri May 29, 2009 12:34 pm

past relationships/ sexual experiences.... really that depends on the people involved. i personally never really want to hear about ur past relationships and sex experiences unless it somehow will effect me. credit and finaces should be discussed when the relationship is moving towards marriage or if people are considering moving in with one another.

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Post by swtearl on Fri May 29, 2009 7:31 pm

steshasweetie wrote:past relationships/ sexual experiences.... really that depends on the people involved. i personally never really want to hear about ur past relationships and sex experiences unless it somehow will effect me. credit and finaces should be discussed when the relationship is moving towards marriage or if people are considering moving in with one another.


Stesha put your pic back up...I really enjoy looking at you!!! YUMMY!!!

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Re: When is it okay???????

Post by Missarcasm on Fri May 29, 2009 8:35 pm

PERV!

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Post by steshasweetie on Fri May 29, 2009 10:35 pm

lmao earl u are crazy!

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Re: When is it okay???????

Post by Divine on Sun May 31, 2009 9:18 am

BlackBeauty wrote:How soon is it okay to discuss past relationships, sexual experiences or encounters, credit scores, and other personal records with a new mate?


I would say that it is appropriate when marriage is being considered.

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Re: When is it okay???????

Post by swtearl on Sun May 31, 2009 11:25 am

Missarcasm wrote:PERV!


Its not a perv....I think its nice of me to make you young ladies feel BEAUTIFUL!!! I enjoy looking at yall. I just find it strange that SOME never put their pics up....hmmmmmmm

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Re: When is it okay???????

Post by bk's finest on Sun May 31, 2009 11:40 am

swtearl wrote:
Missarcasm wrote:PERV!


Its not a perv....I think its nice of me to make you young ladies feel BEAUTIFUL!!! I enjoy looking at yall. I just find it strange that SOME never put their pics up....hmmmmmmm
lol you dont have to make us feel beautiful. A lot of us already know we are! Very Happy

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Re: When is it okay???????

Post by bk's finest on Sun May 31, 2009 11:42 am

when the relationship seems like its getting serious (most likely close to wedding bells) you should discuss that; when it comes to credit scores.
Personal records should be discuss soon because you dont want to get into any of their mess. Same goes for past relationships/sexual experiences.

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Re: When is it okay???????

Post by BlackBeauty on Wed Jun 03, 2009 1:42 am

I think its okay to discuss past relationships within the 2nd to 3rd week. It may be a little fast, but I want to know his views and thoughts on his ex’s and whether or not he will speak respectful of them or not. I don’t want to hear of or discuss sexual experiences at all and as far his credit score. I wouldn’t wait until marriage to find out wheatear he would have a hard time getting approved for a house, so I would ask about that after the first 6 months. And as far as background checks, I do that the first week, I just don’t tell them.

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Re: When is it okay???????

Post by Kiaana08 on Mon Jun 29, 2009 6:40 pm

Bonnie9606 wrote:^^I concur Miss Sarcasm. It is dependent upon the progression of the relationship and the comfort level amongst the two people involved.

I do not discuss finances and credit until the relationship is monogamous and marriage is considered.


I totally agree!!!

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