Is Love A Choice???

I just wanted to hear your thoughts on this....Do you believe love to be a choice or something that gradually happens?

I think people CHOOSE to fall in love. I believe there is a very small percentage of people who CHOOSE not to have a significant other (and I'm not talking about the ones who are single temporarily until they find the right one, either). Some people CHOOSE not to pursue a relationship and would much rather wait for it to gradually happen (like myself). I want to be in love again, but you have to be careful who you choose to have your heart.

I don't think you have a say over whether or not you fall for someone.. sometimes the heart wants what it wants. I think that love happens gradually, and after you have gotten to know someone.

I believe that love is an action but to love someone is a choice. It is totally possible to love someone from a distance. It is also smart to never solely rely on your emotions because they are tricky. It is best to love with both your head and your heart because anything else is unbalanced.

No...I do not believe love is a choice...then again I do....lemme explain.

I do believe that love happens sometimes....out of no where you end up falling in love with someone you NEVER expected to fall in love with. You didn't choose to do it...it just happend.

Now the choice part.....I do believe that there are people....a PERSON that is put on this planet by GOD just for you. I think alot of people IGNORE this person and choose NOT TO FALL IN LOVE with that person for whatever reason.

unless its an arranged marriage, love is a choice.

If you are carrying a baby, the love switch does not "pop" on. If it wasn't there before, it sure isn't going to be there just because you're pregnant.

i was justn going to say the mother thing lol...i cant really see LOVE being a choice...either you do or you dont. With your children....you dont CHOOSE to love them...that is something that just is...an involuntary action..if you dont love your child its not bc you chose not to...i thinks its invlountary you simply cant. being that we dont know who is meant for us (like earl said chosen by GOD)...then that to me would be the non choice...we dont choose that person for us...the ppl that we did "choose" guess what....it wasnt meant to be..they dont last they are turmoil blah blah blah....we sometimes look bk and ask as too why we were 'in love" with that person to begin with. So again no...you dont choose...now the actions that come with loving someone to allow that love to grow and nourish and function to me would be the choice part

nikkals wrote:Your son is just to cute Mizz_Nichole but to answer your question I think love is not a choice. It develops over time just think when a female first find out she's having a baby do the love switch pop on instantly? for some yes but my point is after time you eventually get attach to the baby your carrying. Or when your dating someone once you see that you wanna be with that person over time you start catching feelings for that person. So I believe that love is an emotion that you can't help but to feel but it's up to you to know the differences between love and lust cause lust can make you think you love someone when you really don't.

Thank you 4 the compliment! My poor baby is sick, I hope he doesn't have that stupid swine flu.
Anyways, I agree with Earl. Love can be a choice, like for instince....say you've been wounded in relationships over and over again, but it's just human nature for us to like to be around the opposite sex. And you meet someone he/she is all the things you've ever imagined, some people will choose to not fall in love with them out of fear.