Being Numb

Has anyone ever hurt you so badly that you became "numb"? How did you get over it?

Wow..are you ok today? I became numb during the last year of my marriage. When he and I divorced I became angry but I was never sad and then I was happy. I think that it's a natural part of the grieving process and one day you won't be numb anymore.

Recently I became numb because of something that I experienced that I was not prepared for. I went from being devastated to feeling numb and now I am ok. I have good and bad days and moments. I think that becoming numb was the way that I was able to cope. I could not continue to feel the way that I was feeling, I don't what would have happened.

Lol, yeah, I'm okay. Today anyway. I have been going through something the past couple of days to where I am emotionally drained and I have been questioning a lot in regards to relationships and I just wanted various input from people I don't necessarily know lol.

Well I have recently been numb and I think I am just now getting over it. I hurt to the point to where I cried everyday. One morning I woke up from a nap and in like .1 secs I started crying when I woke up. What I had with him was the best relationship I had ever been in. I wish I can go back in time and fix everything but I know these no doing that. I got over it just by taking it day by day.

I am sorry to hear that you ladies are 'going through'. In hindsight all of my relationships (especially the really bad ones) were a reflection of me and where I was in my life. I learned so much about myself from my failed marriage and I am better because of it. It was easier (and more beneficial) for me to look at myself and make some changes than it was to try to figure out why he was doing what he was doing. I am so much better because of it. What you are feeling is temporary.

I felt that way not long ago and it wasn’t because of a man. It was something very difficult that I had to deal with and eventually get over. I agree that you have to take it day by day.

He cheated.....multiple times.....I've been NUMB FROM THAT DAY FORWARD....with help from the counseling I've been getting from pastors and friends...I've learned......HE FORCED HIMSELF UPON ME...meaning once I discovered his transgressions...he didn't ALLOW ME THE SPACE NOR TIME TO WORK THRU the EMOTIONAL STAGES of BEING CHEATED ON..or as they say in counseling...THE AFFAIR. He immedaitely bought that 3 carat I had been buggiing him about for what...6 years....he would CONSTANTLY talk about marriage....until one day I ran down to the court house and did it.....that was March 7, 2008......I've been NUMB SINCE THEN....pretending to like him....when I really wanted to vomit........and the SEX...IT WAS SO AWFUL....most times I didn't want him....and when I would get sick of his begging..I'd just lay there....oh it was bad...eventually one day I just couldn't take it....so April 25, 2009...I PRAYED HARDER THAN I EVER HAVE IN MY LIFE....I asked GOD to just simply show me IF THIS IS THE PERSON FOR ME....well needless to say..he had the gaul the next day to get jiggy with me....and I already have these FESTERING EMOTIONS....of revenge...disgust.....hatred...I grabbed an African MAsk that was closest to me and bashed that son-of-a-bitch's brains out!!!!....NOW THAT SHIT THERE MAKES ME SMILE TO NO END....NOW THAT HE'S GONE I'M NOT NUMB ANYMORE.....HE APPEARS TO BE NUMB NOW WHEN I LET MY NEW MAN ANSWER THE DOOR WHEN HE ARRIVES TO PICK UP HIS SON...chuckle......

No I am sorry to say no one has hurt me to that extent. Neither have had an experience that would make me get into a state of numbness.

aneye4aneye wrote:He cheated.....multiple times.....I've been NUMB FROM THAT DAY FORWARD....with help from the counseling I've been getting from pastors and friends...I've learned......HE FORCED HIMSELF UPON ME...meaning once I discovered his transgressions...he didn't ALLOW ME THE SPACE NOR TIME TO WORK THRU the EMOTIONAL STAGES of BEING CHEATED ON..or as they say in counseling...THE AFFAIR. He immedaitely bought that 3 carat I had been buggiing him about for what...6 years....he would CONSTANTLY talk about marriage....until one day I ran down to the court house and did it.....that was March 7, 2008......I've been NUMB SINCE THEN....pretending to like him....when I really wanted to vomit........and the SEX...IT WAS SO AWFUL....most times I didn't want him....and when I would get sick of his begging..I'd just lay there....oh it was bad...eventually one day I just couldn't take it....so April 25, 2009...I PRAYED HARDER THAN I EVER HAVE IN MY LIFE....I asked GOD to just simply show me IF THIS IS THE PERSON FOR ME....well needless to say..he had the gaul the next day to get jiggy with me....and I already have these FESTERING EMOTIONS....of revenge...disgust.....hatred...I grabbed an African MAsk that was closest to me and bashed that son-of-a-bitch's brains out!!!!....NOW THAT SHIT THERE MAKES ME SMILE TO NO END....NOW THAT HE'S GONE I'M NOT NUMB ANYMORE.....HE APPEARS TO BE NUMB NOW WHEN I LET MY NEW MAN ANSWER THE DOOR WHEN HE ARRIVES TO PICK UP HIS SON...chuckle......

wow really?

Sad..but true. I find myself thinking about the 12 years I've wasted with such a PATHETIC person POSING AS A HUMAN BEING...but I simply PRAY and THANK GOD for all the blessings he's showered me with since I decided to move on....I trust in him that the path that I am on can only lead to PEACE....and HAPPINESS.....if I do what is required of me....that is....

Aneye...I'm reading your posts....have you been here before? You sound like this user named Carliss.

Yep that's meeeeeee....I couldn't get my old info so I just started a new one...but yep it's me......HOW IS EVERYBODY? DANG..it just dawned on methat you remember my name....I hope that's not a bad thing.....IF I OFFENDED ANYONE HERE PREVIOUSLY....PLEASE...PLEASE accept my apologies....I was in a different place the first time I came to this forum....things have changed and I'm in another place right now.....I guess on the road to recovery cause I GOT RID OF HIM...YES!!!! YES!!! YES!!!!! yall have got to excuse me but that is MAJOR for me as I'd been with this man forever...being without him was something I never even thought about briefly...didn't think I would be able to do it......BUT I DID.....and I'm soVERY VERY HAPPY....disappointed in which manner I had to learn this lesson...BUT HAPPY nonetheless.....however if there is a topic concerning cheating and the like...I'm ripping that negro a new A--HOLE!!!! chuckle...talk to you guys later and everyone have a WONDERFUL fulfilling day.......tootles!

I KNEW IT!!!! lol, it's not a bad thing. When I read the posts, as I'm sure along with other folks, I get a feel for the way it's written and the tone of it and it sounded just like Carliss. Anyhoo, aneye formally known as Carliss, welcome back to the boards!

Thanks honey that's soooo sweet and I feel alot better cause I do remember SWEARL or something of that nature...we clashed a few times....but it's all in fun..chuckle.....That really makes me think that maybe NOW is the time for me to start writing my books....I get so many compliments on the way I write or describe a certain situation and my girls think I need to write a book (NOBODY KNOWS ME LIKE MY GIRLS...you can just IMAGINE the things they know.) I write ALOT...personal journals that I have kept since I was 26...I think your compliment is a sign maybe I need to get started...thanks chica and you have a blessed day........

Anytime. Yeah, I have journals that I have kept since 1994 (when I was 12) and my friends think that I need to write a book, too since I have gone through SO many weird, interesting, serious, crazy, and unusual experiences, that it'll be an entertaining read. I have actually started. We'll see.

Anyway, I'm formerly SFA_SWK....you have a blessed day, too!